TAKE IT OR LEAVE!

TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT!

( The Choice is Yours )

” For richer or for poorer, for sickness and in health.. Till death do us part.”  How true is this wedding vows   being made by the bride and groom during the wedding ceremony  right in front of the image of the lord?

Every now and then, we commonly heard that family is the basic unit of society where one finds sense of belongingness and uphold his/her identity.

Nowadays, large number of couples that lead to giving up the vows they have made was rapidly increasing.

I can still vividly recall the memories  I’ve had with my Aunt Jewel(not real name).She is presently living in Laguna. She unfortunately failed in her married life. I have been the great comforter in times of her great sorrow and distress .She  treasured her family more than anything else. I can’t hardly believe why his husband afford to hurt her. She’s a caring mother to her two little angels and a loving wife to his husband. In fact, she was be able to give up her career as a sales representative to devote her life on the challenge of parenthood.

Her daily chores has been a daily sight to me when they are still my neighbors way back in 2003.Waking up early, preparing breakfast, preparing the office uniform and polishing shoes of my Uncle Ray(not real name) and even removing the in-grown  from his toe nails!

It was November 2005 when I found her standing in front of our door with teary eyes and irate face .After offering her  a cup of coffee. She confessed what had happened.

                “ My Uncle was sleeping soundly and she just finish her evening prayer. Ready for a goodnight sleep beside the person she loves so much. She gazed on the cellphone placed on the table beside their  bed. It keeps on glowing and she’s pretty sure it was in silent mode. She picked it and there was two unread messages on  the screen. She felt her heart beat fast than normal as she opened the messages. “ I hd a gr8 tym wen wer togeder”, “ Aslep kn b?”.

                Before she finished reading the message a tear was flowing freely on her eyes. Her sob made Tito wake. She try to burst out the hatred, abhorrence and aggravation on that moment. She want to inject physical pain  on him to lessen the pain she felt. Without any confrontation  spoken words , guilt was clearly perceived on his face. He try to comfort her but she refused . she wanted to get him out of her sight.

                Days and months passed by, the family that lives harmoniously undergoes a lot of change. The laughter and cheers turned into bitterness and dismay. The healthy relationship was wounded and even if it healed,there was already a scar that reminds that once it was wounded.

 She couldn’t afford to live day by day waking up with the person who betrayed her and don’t ever dare to exert an effort to reconcile with her. After setting up her children mind on the decision that she had made ,it was February 2006 when my Aunt decided to end up everything. According to her “ what’s  the sense of living together when the feeling that resides in your heart is full of hypocrisy.

                I can’t tell what she did was right or wrong. Her story left one question to ponder on my mind: “Do you really need to sacrifice and bring back the  trust after the betrayal done by your spouse to uphold the family’s identity and the vows that you’d made or simply put an end on it and welcome another page of your life? When incident like this unfortunately happened, HE’s just waiting for you to let you know what is the best thing you have to do. The choice is yours with HIS guidance..#juliecabiles#